5 Screen Time Rules That Saved Our Sanity

In an era where screens, smartphones, tablets, and computers, are ever-present, many parents struggle to manage their children’s digital use. The issue isn’t just screen time itself but the conflicts and arguments it sparks at home.

In an article published on Psychology Today (May 2025), Dr. Randy Kulman, a child psychologist and founder of the educational platform LearningWorks for Kids, offers five simple yet highly effective strategies for managing family screen time without turning it into a daily battle.

1. Be Clear and Proactive: Don’t Wait for Conflict

Setting boundaries should happen in advance, not as a reaction to negative behavior. Dr. Kulman recommends establishing clear, consistent rules for screen use, such as a two-hour daily limit or only after completing chores and homework. When parents set these guidelines calmly, rather than in moments of frustration or anger, children are more likely to accept them.

2. Use a Daily or Weekly Schedule

A simple, printed schedule displayed prominently at home can be a game-changer. Kids can see exactly when they’re allowed to use screens, which sometimes even makes the routine enjoyable. According to Dr. Kulman, this tool reduces friction by giving both parents and children a sense of control.

2. Seek Learning Opportunities Through Media: Don’t Demonize It

Instead of portraying screens as the enemy, Kulman suggests using them wisely. For example, allow kids to play strategy games that develop cognitive skills or watch educational films that spark discussion. This transforms screens into a tool for learning rather than a source of conflict.

4. Introduce Planned Breaks Without Alarming Warnings

To avoid resistance, don’t surprise kids with a sudden “Turn it off now!” Instead, give a heads-up that screen time will end in five or ten minutes. Dr. Kulman also recommends offering a pleasant alternative activity, like making popcorn, going for a walk, or playing a physical game, to replace the dopamine hit from screens.

5. Involve Kids in Setting the Rules

To ensure kids respect boundaries, involve them in creating them. When children can express their needs, such as “I want 30 minutes to play on the computer” or “I prefer my screen time after dinner”, they develop a sense of commitment. Kulman emphasizes, “Good parenting is about leading with listening, not dictating.”

Dr. Kulman advocates for a mindset shift, not fighting screens but managing them wisely.

An empathetic approach, open communication, and firm boundaries are the keys to digital harmony in the family.